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Sign No. 1: you are always not satisfied with themselves
Sign No. 2: you will constantly be in a bad mood
Sign # 3: people always feel guilty
Sign # 4: inability to ask someone to help
Sign No. 5: excessive modesty
How to overcome the problems with self-criticism?
Sometimes people are too picky to themselves. On the one hand, criticism can have a positive impact, but on the other hand it can only do harm. What are the signs talking about the excessive self-criticism? Tell Magicforum.
According to psychologist Ellen Henriksen, self-criticism can be of different types. So, with the apparent self-criticism people can directly call myself an idiot, a loser, a fool. Such people are engaged in self-flagellation is almost always belittling his own achievements. There is a hidden self-criticism, which can be anxiety, depression, stress, eating disorders. Quite often a hidden self-criticism is confused with the normal stress condition. To recognize the self-criticism, you should pay attention to the signs.
Sign No. 1: you are always not satisfied with themselves
Quite often people start to chew on himself for some mistakes, to belittle his own achievements. Sometimes it is really useful and necessary for the movement the better, but sometimes such self-criticism has the opposite effect and slows down the process. The fact that criticism always represents something unpleasant. Even if the person says that it accepts and assumes all words for the good. If we starts to continuously send the self-criticism farther and farther inward, it may cause reluctance to do anything in principle, due to constant dissatisfaction with himself.
Sign No. 2: you will constantly be in a bad mood
People who have the gift of a healthy self-criticism, always manifest themselves in an extremely responsible manner, they can rely on. From this arises the desire to take up all projects for all work, including home. From constant load, the probability of formation of stress, and from here there is dissatisfaction. The person will be anxious, depressed due to the large number of responsibilities, plans and details which he requires. Breaks for the person with self-criticism will seem wrong.
Sign # 3: people always feel guilty
Self-criticism is also human and can “break”: they need a vacation, rest, break from work, which is absolutely natural. However, because of this people start to think that everything is going wrong, wrong, because their normal state, they now all have. Guilt does not leave the employees with self-criticism. From this guilt begins to penetrate even in the lives of others, self-criticism and think about all the mistakes, even those that were 20 years ago. And when someone else criticizes such a person, then it seems that this is absolutely true, although in reality this is not always the case.
Sign # 4: inability to ask someone to help
Self-criticism believe that they are self-sufficient. And the help is seen by them as something shameful, shameful. Independence is not always a good thing, psychologists believe. And that is completely normal from time to time to ask someone for help. But in the brain of someone who is too self-critical, help is considered a sign of weakness, a fault, a real shame. Think we’ll see in a helpless condition, but to get and offer help to others — of course in the modern society.
Sign No. 5: excessive modesty
Often accompanied by self-criticism, capable men and women, who since childhood kept saying, you’re smart, beautiful, creative. Accordingly, the bar is lifted up, and the inability or unwillingness to conform to the idea of the perfect man leads to such modesty. People blame themselves before something is done. However, self-criticism should be healthy and useful, to benefit, to become better.
How to overcome the problems with self-criticism?
Self-criticism can be useful if it is aimed in the right direction. To help deal with the above issues is self-love. You need to understand that we are not all perfect, even if those seem. The figure of the girl from “Instagram” in reality is similar to yours, and moving up the career ladder is not always due to the extraordinary abilities of your colleagues. Therefore, positive attitude to himself, his failures and mistakes, and not blame themselves every time something does not work. Kindness and love is the cure to unhealthy self-criticism.
